How Accepting Criticism Makes Our Lives Better
Nobody likes to be corrected. We like to feel that we are in charge and everyone looks up to us. But realistically, we know that is often not true. Even if they do, sometimes, we know that we are not being completely honest, allowing others to believe we have all the answers. What is ironic is that it is unfair to ourselves to expect to know everything about everything. It is not embarrassing at all to go to a doctor for advice or allow a pilot to decide the course of the flight. But many times, we expect ourselves to know things we have not had time or desire to study.
Everyone knows something about something! That being said, allowing others to teach us something is good for both of us. Many times, youth have the advantage over adults when it comes to social media, video games, and computers. There is a reason for that! They use electronics all day long as a matter of course. Even a two year old knows what he likes and who he trusts. When we allow others to teach us things, we show faith in them and they feel good about helping us. We also learn more about them and what is important to them, building the bond between us. In addition, we learn something from someone who knows more in that area and that significantly shortens the time it takes to learn a new concept or skill.
Over the long term, accepting criticism can really help us to grow. If others feel we won’t listen to them, then we may inadvertently close a door to further knowledge, and perhaps a closer relationship as well. They will consider it a lost cause and not share what they know. This is the real loss. Our opportunity to grow is no longer there.
One additional advantage is that it is good for our egos to not always be stroked. Sometimes we jump to conclusions about knowing the answers too soon and make mistakes. Furthermore, we may risk hurting the feelings of the one who actually has the right answer. Assuming we know the answer sends the message that we care more about being right than we care for them. Besides, lying to ourselves is not helping anyone.
Therefore, learning faster, learning humility, and steady growth really make the case for learning to accept criticism and teaching from others. Incremental growth is the biggest plus in accepting criticism. Over time, one’s personal growth has no limits, and others will see you as a kinder person overall.